Losing virginity can be a very painful act. A lot of
girls are scared of that pain and their first sexual intercourse can be very
uncomfortable because of that.
Nowadays, young people are entering the world of sexy
very early and it seems that in many cases their first sexual act is not a
reflection of true love. That’s why many of them use inappropriate locations to
experience their first sexual intercourse like the back of a car for example.
This is absolutely wrong because the first sex is something that everyone
remembers for the rest of their lives. This is the reason why you should choose
the right environment, where you will feel safe and pleasant and you won’t have
to do that in a hurry. You should choose a date when you are completely alone
at home in order to be sure that no one will disturb you.
Before the first
sexual intercourse it is completely normal to feel great anxiety and that
anxiety can be even greater if you are doing that in a tense environment. The anxiety
can cause nervousness too and all these things make normal sex impossible. If the environment is not right, you will
feel tension and you will need additional time to relax and feel the
excitement. If you are losing your virginity with someone you truly love and
know make sure you create a romantic atmosphere (candles, appropriate music and
even a massage can be very helpful).
The first sexual experience usually comes as a result
of love, need or even curiosity. If you are planning to lose your virginity
with a guy with whom you are in a long and stable relationship the situation
will be much easier and you won’t feel uncomfortable during the “preparation”
period. Although it’s not a good idea to lose your virginity on some party with
someone that you don’t know very well, if you are in a situation like that
don’t feel embarrassed to tell him that you are a virgin. If the guy doesn’t
know that you are a virgin he might act a little bit more rough and that can
lead to unnecessary pain and an unpleasant sexual experience. This is why you
should simply tell him that you are a virgin and ask him to be gentle and slow
and that he should be careful with the penetration. Those who have not used
tampons yet may feel even more unpleasant because the vagina will be even
tighter.
Once your boyfriend is ready to penetrate it is better
to keep your thighs wide open. Adding a pillow under the hips can make the
situation even better. Using a lubricant on your partner’s penis will improve
the natural vaginal wetness and make the penetration less painful. Once you
find the right rhythm it will be much easier. Remember that you don’t need to
feel desperate if you don’t reach an orgasm because this is only your first
sexual experience.
